I am called Sir Guy. I am a Brooklyn born and bred lifestyle Dominant. I have been public in the scene about seven years, but I’ve engaged in what I now know are BDSM activities for a couple of decades. I was very active in the BDSM community for a number of years, but lately have stepped back a bit, except for the educational classes at various venues.
Aside from BDSM, I am a former police officer and currently am an emergency medical technician with service at Ground Zero and Hurricane Katrina. I have been involved in a number of progressive organizations in leadership roles. I am very involved in my culture and am a student of other cultures and humans in general. Though most people see my serious side, I have a goofy sense of humor. In addition to writing, I am also an artist with a fondness for pen and ink drawings. I am a seeker of knowledge and as such, am a voracious reader. I have a thing for uniforms, intelligent, cultured, curvy women, and people who understand the difference between doing things right and doing the right thing.
Have you taken any formal writing classes or is this a talent that you have developed independently?
No… The last time I had a “creative writing” class was in junior high. I have been writing since I was a child, and public speaking since I was six.
I’d always been quite shy one on one, so as a youth I turned to my writing to express myself. Poetry, love notes, prose were outlets of mine and they provided me with a means to truly express my innermost thoughts and desires freely and without hesitation.
Most of your characters appear to be people of color, was this a deliberate intention as you wrote?
Actually it was. There are all kinds of erotica and BDSM themed writings out there but few if any show the diversity of the BDSM community, so I purposely decided to make at least one of the stories’ main characters a person of color.
To be honest, I am still wrapping MY head around that myself. In a consensual situation, where the “victim” has control of the scenario, it can be erotic simply because of the raw bestial nature of it. I have spoken to many women who enjoy rape play, some of whom were rape victims, and they have told me that it is the fact, the ability to end it, control how far it goes, while being in that state of vulnerability that turns many of them on.
In your book, for example the story Prison Uprising, the rape is not consensual, how do you explain the eroticism in that type of story?
It is a story, a fantasy. There are murder mystery writers who write about heinous crime scenes, but they are not encouraging murder… This is about imagination, fantasy, hidden desires. Most of the people I’ve talked to who have rape fantasies or who play them out don’t wish for actual rape. That’s why it’s called “Fantasy”.
I actually wrote two of the “Sharif” stories before I was publicly in the scene. I think that’s why they have a romantic turn in them. Some of my stories since have not had that turn because I’d gotten feedback that they didn’t always want it to end in sexual intimacy, and that it should be more on the sadistic side, so I accommodated them. But Sharif is a strong, principled man, a man like I would like to be.
“A muse?” No. There were actually several, some who didn’t know they were. I took ideas in my head and did composites of people I know to visualize what I was writing. I did some research on towns and countries to lend and air of authenticity to the story. Sometimes I was inspired by people I had been involved with. Sometimes, by people I wanted to get involved with. Sometimes, it was simply an idea that manifested itself, a different mindset, like “Payback” for instance. A couple are based upon scenarios that I felt were simply hot, with people I know as inspiration.
Not really, the emotions involved cross gender or sexual preference. The acts committed were committed for the purpose of humiliation, not gratification. The acts themselves, oral and anal conjugation, are the same whether performed by a male or a female, but it is the psychological aspect of the act that makes it different. Besides, does a crime novelist have to had committed a murder to write about one, or a political analyst have to have been a politician to write about that subject? NO… they research and talk to those who have in order to form their writings. I was working on the motives and the feelings involved when I wrote that.
Well, I have a few stories half written… I write like I draw. I may start two or three projects at one time because the spirit has moved me that way, and I will leave them, sometimes for months, until it hits me again, and I finish them all. The Affair part 2 is already written in my head. I just need to put it on paper. And Sharif most definitely will be back, but maybe by himself next time.
Do you have expectations of your literary career beyond Sharp Interrogation?
Well, I’d like to do something that is not scene related, more mainstream, and I’d like to pen a book based on the classes I teach.
Have you suggestions for the hopeful scribes out there?
Have faith in yourself. Do not procrastinate. Control your own product. Have confidence in your abilities and research with due diligence so that you have a finished product you can be proud of.
Will you share three things that we need to know about the book, about Sir Guy, or about the process of creation that have not yet been touched on by these questions?
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Hmmm. The book is fiction… There is not always consent in the stories, because these stories are for entertainment. In real life it is an integral part of BDSM play.
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In real life, it should be quite different and anyone trying out these scenarios must do so responsibly, and as safely as possible. You must get training.
- If you have ideas that you think would make a hot story, jot them down. Flesh them out. Then show your friends. If you like the reaction, you may be on your way!
As opposed to a presenter, who merely gives information, I prefer to identify myself as an educator. I try to teach, to leave people with a clearer understanding and better knowledge than they had coming in. For example, I will be at the NDDs Boot Camp IV in May and one of the topics I am speaking on is medical emergencies in the scene. Not only will I be speaking and demonstrating what to do in the case of a medical emergency, but I will be reviewing what type of supplies to have and what type of questions to ask BEFORE you play with someone. I will also be at Black BEAT University in August. I just presented at Kinky College earlier this month on interactions with Law Enforcement… I am one of their instructors. These subjects are important, more important than many skills and I think these classes or classes like the one I do for Dominant novices are important to the BDSM/Kink community.