BDSM 101 is not something that I offer, and I don’t plan to offer it anytime soon. Yes we were all new at some point. Yes we all need to start someplace. Yes it would be great to have available a workshop where the fresh off the boat can come and learn some things, but I will leave that to others to offer.

My personal reasons for not offering a BDSM 101 is that I don’t think it’s needed in the ways we think it is needed, and I also find that it rarely delivers to the audience that which they seek.

This is not 20+ years ago when I was out here trying to be the anti-Highlander, or not the only one. In the year of T’Challa 20&19 the Google exists and Bing is your friend and a good 80% or more of your new and nevous questions are in your pocket, on your iPhone waiting for you to find them.

Sure the Google can give out lots of misinformation, but once you hit send and that search bar starts to load, you can fall down the rabbit hole about that 1 topic which made you curious.

Which leads me to part 2, most general introduction to BDSM classes lack the specificity the audience desires. Chances are you heard about the class because you ran across a web page, or photo, or porn or ____ which made you kind of curious about what figging is and why people do it.

You can spend the whole 45-60 minutes in the 101 class and unless the snack of the night is Fig Newtons never hear the word. Sure you will hear about tops and bottoms and consent and flogging and I endorse and support all those words, but at no point is someone going to tell you how to insert ginger into your ass, what it feels like, what are the risks and rewards, and show you how to do it safely. So now you’ve wasted an hour of your life, you aren’t any closer to what you hoped to obtain, and Canada Dry is the only ginger in the vicinity.

I prefer my audience be full with the topic of the night, and react to burst and hit the ground running when we are done. I don’t feel that is something I accomplish in a 101 class. I leave that to the professionals, I’m just a kinky chick who knows a thing or 2 about a thing or 2.

Aphrodite Brown