I am not immune to trends. I watched Club Shay Shay w/ Katt Williams like millions of others and when it was advertised that Mo’nique was coming I knew I would tune in. Listen….if there is someone known for making headlines by the words from her mouth Mo’nique is HER and I was sure that she would say some things worth repeating. I didn’t know that I’d relate to her again. Stand up comedy is not my bag. I don’t find most of them funny. I can’t say I hated Mo’nique from what I recall of her stand up. I can’t say that I recall her acting outside Precious. I also haven’t rewatched Precious since the first time. The movie was a LOT and I know myself well enough to not revisit some things. I can say when she went off on her bonnet lectures I tuned her out.

Yes I thought that she might have come from a good space, a space of love. I still am not ever here for even the Auntie telling Black women they are less than. I can say that while I am thrilled for her that she is happy in her relationship and loves her husband I am not a fan of her soapbox that Black women need to all find Black Kings to bow down to, that is not for everyone.

What I was reminded of in her 3 hour interview was that the words of a fat Black woman often fall on deaf ears if they are not shouted down aggressively. I am not a big fan of how she can come across as condescending but I get her more than I do not.

Mo’nique said a lot. What it reminded me of is that when you look a certain way, when you are built emotionally a certain way the odds are not in your favor. I’m not saying I am LIKE Mo’nique, but I understand.

I understand needing to stand your ground when you are wronged.

I understand coming from nothing and creating your reality. I understand being a little fat chick wanting something more than we are told we can have because we are Black and fat and female. I understand having to look at yourself in the mirror and making sure that you respect the reflection looking back.

I don’t like the phrase friendly pussy.

I don’t like her selling the idea that w/o a romantic partner folx are missing out.

I am sure that I have more. I might even do a video but yeah…. I can understand accepting the title of Auntie.

2 BIG offers came in today. One I took it was a no brainer. The other I have to noodle on but I am leaning towards yes. Change is a constant.